If you were to see a warning sign of potential danger or signifying a trap ahead, would it cause you to proceed with caution?
Then please allow me to warn you. Social Media . . .? “It’s a trap!”
WARNING: Social media trap
Don’t worry. I’m just as guilty as any of you. In fact, you likely found this article because it was shared on one of the various social media outlets you follow. And yes, I follow quite a few, as well! I love the ability to connect with old friends, share inspiring stories, and keep our family updated on all that’s happening in our world. While I’m not taking this opportunity to bash social media, I will say. It can be a blessing or a curse. It all depends on how it’s used.
In fact, it’s no doubt something that will be used against us at times. Hear me out.
I think the sneakiest ways it’s used against us is the area of the comparison trap. We see the successes and highlight reels in our news feed, and then all of a sudden, we feel like we couldn’t be any further from “successful” as we see where we are compared to others. We see their Pinterest ready photos, picture perfect moments, and beautiful vacation pictures. We hear of job promotions, weddings, date nights, or pregnancies.
Things really get thrown off track in our low moments, too. Like times when you haven’t seen your husband (awake) in days, you’re drowning in household responsibilities, wondering how bills are going to get paid. Crazy schedules, outside obligations, late night’s home, with two kids, who need to be fed, bathed, and put to bed . . . You get snappy, and may or may not lose your cool (and your mind) all in the heat of the stress, leaving you wondering how in the world are you supposed to do it all?!! (Or is that just me?) You settle down for the night, jump on social media only to have that popular post from a husband who is bragging on how great his wife is for keeping everything in order, not complaining, with a smile on her face, and kids rising to call her blessed . . . Immediately, you’re left to feel like a failure as a wife and mother.
Yield to another lane
But as much as that nasty trap tries to suck us in; as much as this world tries to define what we “should” or “shouldn’t” be. We have to put our foot down and refuse to fall into the comparison trap.
“But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Peter 2:9 NLT).
As human beings, we ALL fall short. In fact, we are reminded of that in Ecclesiastes 7:20- “Not a single person on earth is always good and never sins. God has no favorites (see 1 Peter 1:17). And He loves us just the way we are.
We don’t need to be a better version of anyone else. We just need to ask God to help us be the best version of who He created us to be.
Blue life strife
Are you there with me? I know I’m not the only one who struggles in this area . . . I do understand it. Stresses in life, especially in this Blue life we lead with our heart on the streets, just wears on us precious sisters. But we can’t let it. We have to go to the Source. He is the One who provides what we need, helps change our perspectives, and helps us see that we are doing so much better than we think we are. Because friend, if I could take your face in my hands right now, I would look you in the eyes and remind you of just that. You ARE doing so much better than you think you are. Give yourself grace. Accept that grace. And simply ask God for help. Don’t fall victim to the comparison trap.
Freedom of expressive prayer
Make this your prayer, but adjust it to fit you and your circumstance.
God, help me to be the best version of ME. Give me what I need to be the best wife and mother of this incredible family you’ve given me . . . Help me be what THEY need, not some perceived version of what this world says I should to be. I want to honor You in all I do, but I can’t do this life without You. Thank you for the work you continue to do in each of us. Amen.
– Melinda Merritt
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