Editor note: At first we thought it was “fake news”.  Unfortunately it wasn’t.  A Rutgers law professor actually went public with the message that pedophilia isn’t a crime.  More on that below.

I have a neighbor with a sign in his yard. It was this sign that inspired me to start writing. Last year, I wrote an article the for The Whiskey Patriots website. One of the topics in that piece was based on the statement, “Love is love.” Here is an excerpt from that article.

Love is love? I believe in the biblical definition of marriage. But as I am a conservative-minded man, I also believe in limiting government overreach into our personal lives. Therefore, what you do in the privacy of your own home is your business, as long as it isn’t illegal or infringing on my family and me.

But to state that love is love (all or nothing) is a bit dangerous. Wait. You don’t think it can be dangerous to say anything goes as long as you are in love? Then I would challenge you to have a conversation with a victim of a NAMBLA member. But hey, after all, it was in the name of love, right?

If you are not familiar with NAMBLA, I will give you a quick overview.  Do not look it up – it will only make you sick. It stands for the North American Man Boy Love Association.

It is a pedophilia and pederasty advocacy group that seeks to have age-of-consent laws removed in the US. And while they are focused on homosexual relationships between grown men and pre-pubescent boys, it stands to reason that if they were ever to be successful, it would permeate all genders and all relationship types. More on NAMBLA in a bit.

On Saturday, Philadelphia Magazine ran a Q&Awith a Rutgers law professor who states that pedophilia is not a crime.  

Margo Kaplan, an NYU and Harvard grad, says that pedophiles may or may not turn out to be child molesters and pedophilia is not a choice. There are two things I should point out before going any further. Kaplan, in one of her answers about taking it easy on pedophiles, says:

I am not saying that about sex offenders. I say that theyremain responsible for their conduct. We need to treat pedophiles beforethey offend. People see the word “pedophile” and think “sex offender.” People choose to sex offend children. They do not choose to be pedophiles.”

And I absolutely agree with Kaplan on one thing: pedophiles absolutely have a mental disorder.

The professor defines a pedophile as a person with an intense and recurrent sexual attraction to prepubescent children, children who have not yet entered any form of puberty. “According to the DSM [Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders], it constitutes a mental disorder when you act on it, but not just that. It also constitutes a mental disorder if it causes “marked distress or interpersonal difficulty,” and, as you can imagine, pedophilia will cause this,” she added.

Marked or distressed or interpersonal difficulty? I would disagree with this. What the professor states in her answers are not backed up by some mental health professionals. In fact, Mental Health Matters  labels the following as indicators of pedophilic profile.

  • Popular with both children and adults.
  • Appears to be trustworthy and respectable. Has good standing in the community.
  • Prefers the company of children. Feels more comfortable with children than adults. Is mainly attracted to prepubescent boys and girls. Can be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual.
  • “Grooms” children with quality time, video games, parties, candy, toys, gifts, money.
  • Singles out children who seem troubled and in need of attention or affection.
  • Often dates or marries women with children that are the age of his preferred victims.
  • Rarely forces or coerces a child into sexual contact. Usually through trust and friendship. Physical contact is gradual, from touching, to picking up, to holding on lap, to kissing, etc.
  • Derives gratification in a number of ways. For some, looking is enough. For others, taking pictures or watching children undress is enough. Still others require more contact.
  • Finds different ways and places to be alone with children.
  • Are primarily (but not always) male, masculine, better-educated, more religious than average, in their thirties, and choose jobs allowing them greater access to children.
  • Are usually family men, have no criminal record, and deny that they abuse children, even after caught, convicted, incarcerated, and court-ordered into a sex offender program. The marriage is often troubled by sexual dysfunction and serves as a smokescreen for the pedophile’s true preferences and practices.
  • Are often, but not always, themselves victims of some form of childhood sexual abuse.
  • Even if the pedophile has no children, his home is usually child-friendly, with toys, books, video games, computers, bikes, swing sets, skateboards, rec room, pool, snacks – things to attract children to his home and keep them coming back. Usually the items reflect the preferred age of his victims.
  • A female pedophile usually abuses a child when partnered with an adult male pedophile and is often herself a victim of chronic sexual abuse.
  • A pedophile can act independently, or be involved in an organized ring, including the Internet, NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy Love Association), and other pro-pedophilia groups. Some pedophiles recognize that their behavior is criminal, immoral, and unacceptable by society, and operate in secrecy. Some are quite open and militant about their practices and advocate the normalization of pedophilia under the guise of freedom of speech and press and uses innocuous language like “intergenerational intimacy.”

While Kaplan was focused more on the overall concept of pedophiles, and her assertion that no crime is committed until there is sexual contact with a minor, that is not a complete picture of criminal activity.

The details listed on Mental Health Matters discussed other aspects of child abuse.A pedophile will not stop on his own, and will not turn himself in, because he does not take responsibility for his behavior and denies that he’s doing anything harmful. He will abuse until he’s caught.

A child does not always recognize when he or she is being abused, manipulated, or groomed by a pedophile.

Unless the pedophile is a sexual sadist, he does not have to threaten a child into silence. The trust, gifts, secrecy, and “relationship” are enough.

In some cases, the abuser will coerce the child into silence by saying that if anyone finds out, he would go to jail, or the child would, and maybe the child’s parents. In other cases, threats to harm the child, pets, and family are used.

Pedophiles can be “treated” but never cured, because their sexual preference has always been, and always will be, children. Their urges will always be present. Therefore, treatment focuses on changing, curbing, or re-directing the acting-out behaviors of pedophiles.

As indicated in the characteristics above, you will notice that pedophilia is much more predominant in males than females. Hence, the earlier reference to NAMBLA.

As mentioned previously, pedophiles understand that their behavior is criminal, immoral and unacceptable by society. NAMBLA not only seeks to change the age of consent to allow their proclivities to be normalized, they also believe that men convicted of sex crimes against minors have been unjustly incarcerated. From their own mouths:

“Proponents of authoritarianism within our society have created a system of so-called criminal justice that is itself criminal.  Frequently described with words like Byzantine and Kafkaesque, it is, broadly speaking, more a system of scapegoating than anything else.

No group has been harder hit by the scapegoating trend than man/boy lovers.  If ensnared in the system, we — both men and boys — are subject to a litany of injustices: forced “therapies,” long prison sentences, impossible terms for parole, lifetime registration and community notification, and for some, indefinite  confinement after their sentence has been served.

A man may be subjected to any or all of these things for so much as touching the leg of a teenaged boy, even if it was in response to the boy’s own request.  The boy’s intentions, actions, and experience of the event are not considered at all in determining the man’s fate.  This system needlessly destroys the lives of thousands of men and boys each year.”

 Yes, you read that correctly. These men are actually saying that a grown man who engages in sexual contact with a 14-year-old boy should not be charged with a crime if the minor asked for the contact.

So, we see a push from what is hopefully a small fringe of society to try and normalize an abnormal behavior. These types of people may very well be unstable and in need of mental health care. But one thing is for certain, we cannot allow their ambitions to become normal and decriminalized.

Kaplan finished the interview on Philly.com, saying, 

We need to prevent pedophiles from sexually offending and to do that, we need to refocus on early intervention, treatment and prevention. It’s not always going to work.

No treatment of any mental disorder will always work. Depression treatment, schizophrenia treatment — they don’t always work.

But we don’t throw our hands into the air and wait until the consequences of those conditions become bad before we do something.

With pedophiles, we’ve already thrown our hands into the air. We should not be taking this tactic. The dire consequences only make it more important that we reach out and treat early.”

We cannot allow blanket statements like love is love, to become a mainstream concept.

If we do, we will be in an even bigger societal hell than we already are, where literally anything goes. Our children deserve more than that. They deserve better.

We cannot allow sick-minded individuals to rob these kids of their innocence. As the father of four kids, two of whom are minors, I will not stand idly by and watch that type of behavior become normal in this nation.

I hope you will join me in standing against the argument that pedophilia is only an issue if/when an adult abuses a minor.