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Hate From Your Own Race

It sucks. Sometimes it’s hard to process. Other moments you ask yourself why you do the job. How do you keep going?

Last night I got berated for three straight hours for being a black cop.

Yes, three hours!

I heard every version of the N-word you could possibly think of. Hearing it wasn’t the issue. It’s who I heard it from.

I was the backup officer on a domestic battery in progress. Witnesses called 9-1-1 stating they observed a black man chocking and hitting a black woman.

When we arrived, they were still in a struggle and had to be separated. The black female had cuts and bruises all over her elbows and shoulder. She was disheveled.

Based on witness statements and interviews with both parties, we determined the male was the aggressor. He was arrested and charged with domestic battery.

I was always taught that women should be honored and treated with respect. Call it cliché, but I still believe that. In my heart I felt like we did a good deed, … helping a battered woman.

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“The American culture today hates blue. Try being black and blue.” – Jay Stalien

However, no good deed goes unpunished.

I, the back up unit, became the enemy of the women I was there to help. She was upset at me. She was disgusted at the sight of me. She hated my very presence. She hated what I stood for. She hated, … that I was black.

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(Screenshot from New York SBA video “Blue Racism”)

I guess it’s something that I’ll never get used to. Even after seven years working as a cop, it stings to hear it just as much as it did on day one.

“Black pussy ass n*****. Tryna be the white man. You black and you just gonna stand there and not do nothing. You black bitch ass cop. You worse then the white cracker, f**k you.”

Hate from your own race. Being made out to be a traitor against your own kind. It never sits right, and I’ll never understand it.

The American culture today hates blue. Try being black and blue.

Jay Stalien grew up in the “hood” in Brooklyn, NY. He watched out-of-control black-on-black crime from childhood. As an adult he wondered who would help bring the violence to an end, so he stepped up to become a cop. He began his career with the Baltimore Police Department before a lateral move to West Palm Beach, Florida, where he currently works as a police officer. 

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Jay Stalien

Jay Stalien grew up in the "hood" in Brooklyn, NY. He watched out-of-control black-on-black crime from childhood. As an adult he wondered who would help bring the violence to an end, so he stepped up to become a cop. He began his career with the Baltimore Police Department before a lateral move to West Palm Beach, Florida, where he works as a police officer.   

16 Comments

I hate hearing things like this. Please know that you have my respect!!! Please keep up the great work that you do.

Officer Stalien, I am sorry that you have to deal with that crap. Keep up the good fight and know that you do make a difference to every one you help, even those, like this woman who lit into you. Every child that sees you, black, white, whatever, sees a good man and a good police officer and by your mere presence, you are setting an example for them. God bless.

You are an American Hero
Don’t let anyone ever let you forget THAT
Life is not a popularity contest
You are a true American that is Brave heroic and cares and loves others
Just as God intended
So proud to be your fellow AMERICAN
Thank you for your service and I pray that God blesses you with a very safe and healthy career in the name of Jesus I pray for you AMEN
God be with you now and FOREVER

Dont take these responses personally. Its not personal. Its the hate that has taken over all cultures in this country. Its the devil working overtime in their hearts. If they dont have the Light..then they live in darkness.
Dont ever forget what your mama taught you. God bless you in all that you do!

We are living in very sad times..God Bless you and keep fighting the good fight..

My BLUE brother…I am Hispanic and grew up in the “challenged” section of Southwest BrowRs County in South Florida. I spent nearly 3 decades serving my community as a police officer and most of it on the midnight shift…where it really happens. As they say…NOTHING good happens after midnight.
I remember the cursing and yelling of, “sellout” and my own people looking DOWN on me because I chose to be a defender of the weak. The angry and bitter stares and parents scaring their kids by telling them the OFFICER is gonna get them if they don’t behave…
In the end it was WORTH IT. Some do appreciate your help even if they don’t publicly tell you. To me…I also served for my fellow brothers and sisters in blue…helping then and covering their “6”.

Now…I’ve been retired over 2 years and have many times in which a young man or woman approaches me and reminds me of what I was able to do for them or a family member. Seeing them successful, with a family and a job and a hug is all I need to remind me that I did the right thing.
God bless you and don’t look back or question if you made a mistake. You didn’t and the fruits of your labors will show later on. Stay safe!!!

I understand your pain. I get berated for standing for Biblical and Constitutional principles. They will say how can I be against my own ethnicity, latino, and be for the white man. My cousins who are Peace Officers hear it too. It’s a tough job being for free thought, personal responsibility, hard work, and respect for all. Keep your head up, my family are with you and will pray for you to stay strong.

God bless you and sustain you as He uses you to minister to lost, angry souls. Remember you can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth you.
Philippians 4:13 KJV
http://bible.com/1/php.4.13.KJV

Its not easy being a hero. Stay the course and be the hero your meant to be. Dont concern your self with a small percentage of people that dont like us. For every 1 that hates us. There is 10 that love us.

I would be proud to be your partner.

Stalien, bro, people are ignorant. Please, bro, don’t let ignorance effect you. People are crazy without Jesus. Aint no crazy people in heaven. Get people to Jesus so Jesus can change them.

I had great respect for black Deputies I worked with (
31) years. There was a duality they were hate by part of the community and community leaders by the rest.

Everyone has these stories, and its sad that the average mentality is that if a 9 yearold from grown adults.
Let it be known that there are those of us that work hard that appreciate all officers where thier haert is true, and their integrity is strong. With so much love that we wouldnt hesitate to put our lives on the line to aid for any first responder whom is in trouble.
We are Americans, and we will some day be one voice again.
Keep it safe and on a swivel. You are not alone!

Thank you for serving the citizens here in Palm Beach County, brother. I respect the difficult work you do. As others have said, try not to take it personally. It’s not you they are hating, it’s the uniform. Those of us who serve along side you see you and we have your Six. Stay safe!

Officer Stalien, I hope you can chalk this up to stupidity and hate, from people who probably don’t like themselves much. No excuses for anyone, but you are always welcome at my table!

Just remember why you put on that uniform. Everyone’s True Colors Show at some point and time and you, unfortunately, are on the receiving end of the worst in people. Especially from your own race. Hold your head up high and know that the majority are on your side. It is a constant battle between good and evil and just by what you said I can tell that you are a good person, Remember that…Always

I do not believe in hitting women but maybe the aggressor had the right idea

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