Guarding our heart doesn’t end as women when we’ve found the one whom our soul loves. “Above all else guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). WOW, how true is that?

Thoughts saturate the heart

Did you know that our thoughts and what we hold in our heart eventually flows into our life and actions? If we truly believe that our officer will die in the line of duty we will live in a very dark and fearful place. We’ll miss loving and appreciating every second we have with him because of this fear.

If we believe in our heart that he will find a badge bunny and cheat, we will have burrowed into our inner most being resentment towards him. It will create disconnect and he will be unaware of the root cause. But oh sister, don’t worry because it will show in the relationship. I urge you, BE CAREFUL!

The enemy to a good heart

The enemy clearly comes to STEAL, KILL, and DESTROY as we see in John 10:10. I love that God ends the verse with this, “But I have come so that you may have LIFE and have it abundantly.” Isn’t He such a good, good Father! He knew that in this honorable life as a LEOW, the enemy would be so relentless in keeping us in fear—especially with officers falling daily, or so it seems.


Fear can take up residency in the life of LEOWs. Oh you know those whispers the enemy plants in us ladies. They sound like this: “He’s not coming home.” . . . “You signed up for this life just to eventually be a widow, pathetic.” . . . “See that widow in those pictures all over the news? Imagine yourself there, because you’re next.” . . . “Prepare your kids, they won’t have their father around for long.” And the list goes on! I mean, come on they’re endless. Yet each one can be dangerous to our families if we allow the enemy to keep whispering lies to us.


We have to be intentional about what we watch on the news, the comments we read, drama on law enforcement wife pages and who we let into our personal lives. We need to be careful and make sure that food for our hearts and minds are life giving and encouraging. If not, we will be just like those people whose lives seem to be falling apart. We then wonder how that happened.

Bottom line

What comes in will eventually go out. It’s as simple as that. If you are reading the word, praying, meeting with friends who refresh your spirit, and being a faithful wife, you will reap what you sow.

If you lust after other men because yours isn’t around as much, fight with people on Facebook that are anti-law enforcement, and wait for the next opportunity to start drama with another woman, you will reap what you sow there as well. Our marriages will beat the 50-percent-plus divorce rate in law enforcement if we are emotionally healthy wives that refuse to let garbage into our hearts, marriages, and families.

“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30).

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies” (Proverbs 31:10).

– Mariah Zuniga