“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength
to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”
When my husband and I first met I will never forget the day he told me that he wanted and dreamed of becoming a LEO. I, of course asked him why, and with a solemn expression on his face his response was immediate. He looked at me and said, “I want to protect those who cannot protect themselves. I want to help those who cannot help themselves but most importantly, I want to make a difference.” He had a light in his eyes when speaking of becoming an officer and when he graduated from the academy, I think quite possibly that his happiness that day matched that of our wedding day! I think back to that time and am saddened now when I see that light in his eyes slowly fading because of the constant negativity surrounding Law Enforcement.
I first recognized the tides changing while sitting on the front porch greeting Trick-or-Treaters this past Halloween. Both my husband and I observed parents walking their children from house to house but deliberately skipping ours because his patrol car was parked in the driveway. I looked at him and could immediately see the change in his expression from that of happiness seeing all of the cute children dressed up, to despair and confusion and it broke my heart in an instant. He would never say anything in fear of looking weak or vulnerable but as his wife I could see it in his eyes. As with most small towns everyone knows everyone. With a population of only 20,000 people, there is still that division between the “bad” side of town and the “good”. But, on one night a year the two sides are amerced together on the promise of free candy. I couldn’t help but be amused at the fact that those same people who are avoiding our house because he is an officer are the same ones who call 911 for help and my husband is the first and often times the only officer to respond. I asked myself, our candy is not good enough but my husband’s life is?
As his wife, his best friend and his biggest supporter I feel compelled to share my thoughts, my feelings and my opinion regarding the blatant disrespect being shown by our country as a whole towards our brave LEO’s. I am not naïve enough to believe that all who read this will agree with my words and that is fine, you have the freedom to do so. You do not have to understand where I am coming from and if you haven’t lived this life then there is no way you can. I am however asking for something far more critical than your agreeance with my opinion and that is support. One might say that support is not enough anymore and I will adamantly say that you are wrong. Support is all our LEO’s have and it goes a long way. A simple “Thank You” to an officer can give them that small glimmer of hope that what they are doing for us is not being lost in the cloud of smoke. Support for every single LEO across our Nation who so bravely place that badge upon their chest every single day knowingly risking their lives for the sole purpose to protect mine and yours is imperative right now. The continuous hatred and disrespect being shown for our LEO’s is both disheartening and disgusting. The hatred that is growing throughout our country is much like a weed growing from the ground in a manicured lawn. It is easy to pull one weed but once those spores are spread by the wind the problem dramatically increases in an instant and soon you find yourself surrounded by weeds. The “weeds” or those who break the law demand to be heard and feel entitled to the respect they refuse to give others and it is unacceptable. We can think of support for our LEO’s is the weed killer. Consistent and steady support can have an overwhelming affect on our LEO’s, much like the consistent and steady use of weed killer in your lawn. You wake up each morning and you start to see the change taking place. Slow at first but once a couple of weeds start to fade off you know that what you did has worked and it is only a matter of time before you have your lush beautiful lawn back.
It comes to no surprise that there has been a shift in our country that has slowly but surely been changing the tides on how our society operates on a day to day basis. From order to chaos the balance of power has shifted from those who make the choice to enforce the law to those who make the choice to break it. Bad behavior, illegal behavior, has become a reward of sorts. It is being proven time and time again that if you break the law all one must do is place blame on the officer and your wrong doings will be ignored and forgiven while that Officer’s life will be held under a microscope. Those who took an oath to serve and protect are being questioned and made to justify every single decision made. There used to be an unspoken level of respect and trust between citizens and the officers that serve to protect them. Sadly, that respect and trust has been broken by the skewed media coverage and closed minded debates being blasted across all public forums day after day. It is not about our LEO’s taking responsibility for their actions but rather the lack of responsibility being taken by the criminals. When did the twist of injustice occur in our Nation? When did using Freedom of Speech become permissible only if your speech is in agreeance with the majority? If your beliefs, morals and values happen to be against the majority then you are being offensive and expected to apologize. Well, I will not apologize to anyone for the foundation of my very existence being that of a moral compass. I believe right is right and wrong is wrong. If you break the laws set forth to help govern our society as a whole so that we are protected and kept safe then there should be a consequence, period. The line that divides right from wrong is becoming so unbelievably blurred that it is on the brink of being unrecognizable. I will defend my beliefs and I will defend my husband with every single breath God gives me. I believe in our LEO’s and I support them whole heartedly without an ounce of hesitation because they deserve it and by God they have earned it. This public microscope being placed on the wrong end of the spectrum sickens me and I can’t help but think, isn’t the disease the one needing to be examined more closely, and not the cure?
An Officer’s Wife