AURORA, CO – Losing a child is difficult, regardless of age.
Often grieving families turn not only to legal recourse, but also civil lawsuits against those responsible.
However, in a case out of Colorado, the grieving family who lost their teenager who fell out of a stolen vehicle which ran him over is seeking civil relief from the victim of the car theft.
Colorado logic hard at work.
Family of teen run over by stolen car want vehicle owner held responsible https://t.co/8Uk3Bci6pp
— Hurricane Hunter (@ThomasM70699326) December 14, 2021
The incident when the teenager was killed occurred on October 18th in Aurora, Colorado at Village Green Park.
The Aurora Police Department reports that 14-year-old Kashontez Grigler was riding as a passenger in a van which was stolen by his girlfriend.
Grigler was allegedly hanging on the front of the stolen minivan and fell off, causing the stolen vehicle to run over him. The girlfriend and driver of the stolen van took off on foot but later returned to the scene.
Kashontez’s father, Kasseem Grigler, spoke about the enormous loss of his son:
“It’s hard to cope. We haven’t had his funeral services yet. Until we can get that under control, it’s going to be hard to move on…It hurts, it’s hurting all of us.”
Kasseem said that Kashontez’s girlfriend, the one who allegedly stole the van, is also hurting over what he terms as an accident. He said:
“She [the girlfriend] was my son’s homecoming date. It’s not even easy for her. They were friends and it was an accident.”
Nope. One kid stole the vehicle and killed the other – accidentally, perhaps.
This tendency to blame others for your mistakes and your failures as a parent gets old. https://t.co/B4mcMAk7e2
— Keith Burgin – The Toxic Something Podcast (@KeithBurgin) December 15, 2021
Kasseem then went on to speak about why he and his family have decided the victim of the stolen vehicle is somehow culpable for the death of his son.
Kasseem believes that the victim of the stolen van had left the keys inside of the vehicle and Kashontez and his girlfriend could not avoid the temptation of stealing it. He said:
“The car was in the neighborhood and a group of kids; they saw the car and the temptation was there. Because of that, I lost my son.”
Kasseem seemingly does not find any fault with Kashontez or his girlfriend for committing grand theft when they stole the van, but rather finds the victim at fault for his son’s death.
Kasseem somehow thinks that this situation compares to a gunowner leaving their weapon accessible to children.
“You shouldn’t leave your keys in the car. You have teens walking up and down the street and that could be a liability.”
Whether the victim of the car theft holds any civil or criminal liability remains to be seen, but it is doubtful that any court would rule in that manner.
For the owner to hold any culpability, civil or criminal, the victim would have had to knowingly and intentionally allowed the van to be taken which does not seem to be the case.
Regardless of how the case plays out, the loss of a child is tragic, especially when it could have easily been avoided by the van not being accessible or the teens not committing grand theft in the first place.
The family has set up a GoFundMe account in hopes of raising money to go towards Kashontez’s funeral expenses. As of now, the website has raised just over $1,000 of their $8,000 goal.
The Aurora Police Department has not made any arrests so far for this criminal investigation as it is still ongoing.
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LOUDOUN COUNTY, VA — The mother of the convicted teen rapist in Loudoun County has denied her son is transgender and insisted he did not sexually assault anyone.
In an exclusive interview with Daily Mail, the unnamed mother defended her unnamed 15-year-old son, saying he did not rape his victim.
Instead, she blamed his male hormones and said the sex between her son and the victim was consensual.
Saw someone post the “original” Daily Mail story which they quickly deleted. It contained this picture.
Their “new” version of original article removed picture and changed a few things. Wonder about the reasoning behind changes.
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— Heather Hear (@heather_hear) November 3, 2021
The boy, who is not named due to his juvenile status, was found guilty on Oct. 25 of sexual assaulting a 15-year-old girl inside a bathroom stall for females at Stone Bridge High School. The attack occurred on May 28, and he was dressed in a skirt at the time of the attack.
Loudoun County juvenile court Chief Judge Pamela Brooks found sufficient evidence during an Oct. 25 trial to sustain charges of forcible sodomy and forcible fellatio on a 15-year-old classmate, according to New York Post’s report.
Following the May attack, the boy had been transferred to Broad Run High School, which is also located in Loudoun County. The boy is accused of sexually assaulting another 15-year-old girl at the new school on Oct. 6.
In the latest incident, the boy allegedly pulled a girl into a classroom and inappropriately touched her.
The boy is due back in court on charges for the alleged sex attack in October and will be sentenced for the May attack after that, according to New York Post.
In Daily Mail’s interview, the mother, who asked not to be identified for the sake of her underage son, spoke with the news outlet from her townhouse in Loudoun County.
She defended her son and told Daily Mail that her son is not transgender:
“First of all, he is not transgender. And I think this is all doing an extreme disservice to those students who actually identify as transgender.”
The mother also suggested he was being used as a political pawn during election season:
“He’s a 15-year-old boy that wanted to have sex in the bathroom, with somebody that was willing.
“And they’re twisting this just enough to make it a political hot button issue.”
The rape scandal did affect the race for governor in Virginia after the story exploded back in June.
Scott Smith, the father of the rape victim, was dragged out of a school board meeting with a bloodied mouth on June 22 after listening to school officials deny that a girl had been raped in the bathroom.
The case ignited a raging debate in Loudoun County over transgender students’ rights and parents’ freedom of speech.
The school board was also accused of pushing an ultra-liberal agenda on students and parents and silencing those who disagreed with them.
During the campaign trail, then-Republican gubernatorial candidate Glenn Youngkin referenced the Loudon school board’s coverup, asking “What tragedy next awaits our children?”
Youngkin, who won the Virginia election on Nov. 2, had also previously demanded that Loudoun County Superintendent Scott Ziegler and the school board resign following a bombshell email.
The email proved the board was made aware on May 28 that a female student reported she had been sexually assaulted by a male student in a girl’s bathroom.
The email was sent to school board members about a month before Ziegler said at a board meeting that he had no record of assaults in the school district’s bathrooms.
Youngkin told Fox News:
“This is gross negligence in its most extreme form.
“There must be resignations.
“In fact, people who have not resigned, I don’t understand how they can possibly go into their next school board meeting.
“How can they go into their next school board meeting and be expected to sit there and represent our kids’ future when they covered this up?”
The mother of the rapist told Daily Mail that her son doesn’t identify as a female, and it wasn’t just some disguise to slip into the girl’s bathroom.
She further said that his actions were that of a heterosexual, hormonal teen who had consensual sex with the victim twice before.
Despite her own son claiming he was “pansexual,” the mother told Daily News:
“He would wear a skirt one day and then the next day, he would wear jeans and a T-shirt, a Polo or hoodie.
“He was trying to find himself and that involved all kinds of styles. I believe he was doing it because it gave him attention he desperately needed and sought.”
The mother did acknowledge her son is deeply troubled and has an extensive history of misbehavior and has been repeatedly suspended as a result.
She did not deny reports of him having fist fights with classmates or sending nude photos of himself to a girl in fifth grade, but was annoyed that so much information about his past was being revealed.
“What are they trying to do? Did they hire an investigator to dig up everything and ruin him for the rest of his life?”
The mother explained that she and her son’s father split up when he was just a baby. She left New Jersey and moved to Virginia with her son and said:
“He’s been a challenging child his whole life, which I’ve dealt with myself.
“My son’s gone through multiple forms of counseling and therapy, resources here, at school, friends, family.
“It’s been 15 years of hell trying to get him to do better and be better.”
Even while acknowledging her son’s past troubles, the mother tried to portray the rape in May as a type of accident.
The victim admitted that she had sex with the boy in the bathroom on a previous date, but on May 28 she told him that she was not feeling well and was not in the mood for sex, Daily Mail reported.
According to her testimony, he followed her into the bathroom twice on May 28. During the second time, he followed her into a stall and threw her on the floor and forced her to perform sex acts.
The victim reported he flipped her over on the floor and sexually assaulted her and that he stopped only when someone else had walked into the bathroom. A short time later, she went to the principal’s office to report the rape.
However, the mother did not believe the victim’s account. Instead, she believed her son’s version of events.
The son depicted the rape as an accident, saying he didn’t mean to insert himself into the victim’s anus and was surprised when it caused her pain.
The mother told Daily Mail:
“He said he was intending for vaginal and it ended up for 10 seconds as anal.”
In addition, the mother said her son actually showed concern about the girl’s pain:
“He knew she was in pain. He said, ‘Are you okay?’ She said, ‘That hurt.’ And he’s like, ‘What kind of pain?’
“He was showing genuine concern.”
Even though a judge found her son guilty, the mother blamed the rape victim:
“If I was in a position where I was about to be raped, I would be screaming, kicking, everything.
“You’re 15. You can reasonably defend yourself. You’re not just going to sit there and take it.
“And so, because there wasn’t a presence of a fight, he felt it was okay to keep going.”
The mother also complained about the victim’s father and his decision to publicly lash out about his daughter’s rape. She told Daily Mail:
“News of the second incident and, having been told through informal channels that it was (the same boy), made him snap.
“And so he was not going to be quieted and he was going to let the world know that his daughter was raped by this transgender boy that took advantage of transgender policies, and that LCDS needs to reverse their policies.”
She also accused associates of the Smith family of leaking sealed information, telling Daily Mail:
“So between Scott being all riled up from his position [and leaked information] it was inevitable for this to spread like wildfire.”
She also complained about parents in general, noting that transgender policies have been a hot topic for several years and that a scapegoat case was being sought:
“Parents were looking for that one case and that one piece of evidence that shows that boys are going to take advantage of this to rape their daughters.
“That’s been in the mix since transgender ID was even presented as a possibility of a policy. And so, it happened.”
Towards the end of her interview, the mother reflected and summed up her thoughts:
“What is the end game on this? My son’s going to be going on the sexual registry and be committed to Megan’s Law for the rest of his life because he had 15-year-old hormones.”
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