12 Questions that Will Unite Cops

There are few things that will unite cops more than finding a brother or sister officer at a social function filled with academics or boring business people. Let’s face it, talking philosophy with a college professor or the GNP with business experts is simply not stimulating dialogue for our “Band of Brothers.”

Yet if we interject homicides, robberies, or fatal collisions into the conversation, suddenly our heroes come to life.

Funny how that works!

Part of friendship includes people who are there in a crisis. Cops experience one emergency after another in the line of duty. As a result, discussing life with people outside the profession can be a challenge.

I recently participated in Cops and Cabins with a group of fellow officers from different areas of the country. I didn’t know most of them prior to our time together. However, after spending four days with these guys, we all left feeling more complete than we did upon arrival.



Like it or not, emotional welfare is discovered by those who unload their burdens.

Therefore, we asked stimulating questions that probed life. Not just any life, but the unique experiences of police life; the components that others have a difficult understanding.

Coping with crooks requires police officers to understand darkness without residing there. As a result, they can become jaded and move in silence. They do not unload some of the heavy baggage incurred during the course of duty. Consequently, they have the overwhelming ability to become anti-social.

But it need not be so.

So what did we ask at Cops and Cabins that made us feel like we developed lasting friendships? We probed into light-hearted topics as well as themes that most cops will not discuss with people outside the business. Below is a sample of some of our inquiries of one another.

Questions that will unite cops in dialogue
  1. What motivated you to become a police officer?
  2. Who is the most inspirational person in your career?
  3. What are some of your frustrations with police work?
  4. What has been a satisfying on duty moment?
  5. If you were king for a day, what would you change in your organization?
  6. If you’re brave enough to admit it, what is your biggest fear?
  7. What has been your most devastating encounter?
  8. How has becoming a cop changed your relationships?
  9. If you had a “do-over” from your career, what would it be?
  10. What do you love about being a cop?
  11. What do you hate about being a cop?
  12. Describe how the job is different from your pre-employment perspective?

Perhaps you’ll find these questions stimulating and they can unite cops in your world. Consider them a starter set. There a thousands more that can be developed as you dive into these topics.

Watch the short video below, courtesy of Patrick Shaver, and you’ll receive the benefit of hearing cops respond to these questions.